
Join Us When The Former Proprietor Also Will Be Celebrated At Stonewood Grill On Monday, July 28, 1 P.M.-???Â
Even though I had met David (âDaveâ) Rathbun when he managed the Carrabbaâs Italian Grill on N. 56th St. in Temple Terrace, I didnât really get to know him until 2002, when he opened the first Stonewood Grill & Tavern in the Tampa Bay area.
There werenât a lot of great restaurants in our area at that time â heck, there werenât a lot of restaurants, period â but Stonewood became New Tampaâs favorite restaurant pretty much from the day it opened and thereâs no doubt that Dave had as much to do with it as the restaurantâs steaks and seafood.
The way Dave seemed to remember everyoneâs name after one or, at the most, two times meeting them, the way he made sure his instant slew of regulars always got their favorite table or seat at the bar â literally everything about the guy was warm, funny and genuine. He was the very definition of the word âhospitableâ in the hospitality industry.

I didnât know that Daveâs wife Gina was suffering from amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS, better known to many as âLou Gehrigâs Diseaseâ) for the first several years she was stricken with it, and it wasnât because Dave didnât talk about Gina. It was because he constantly talked about how wonderful she was, what a great mom she was to her daughter (and Daveâs beloved stepdaughter) Emily and what a talented artist Gina was. The first time I found out Gina was ill was when Dave asked if I could publish an article about her in the paper to show some of her art, which I did and I wish I couldâve found the issue with that story before I went to press with this issue.
Now, mind you, Dave Rathbun never asked me to write anything about Stonewood. He literally had never asked me for anything until that day. And, for the first time ever, I saw pain behind his ever-present, infectious smile.
When Dave left Stonewood, a lot of people were heartbroken. There were some who told me that they couldnât keep going to their favorite place if Dave wasnât there anymore.
The next time I heard from Dave was in 2023, when he had accepted a position as a manager at Bella Brava New World Trattoria in The Hub at Bexley (off S.R. 54 in Lutz) , which opened a few months later. He introduced me to general manager Tina Stormer and made sure the Neighborhood News was on-hand for Bella Bravaâs âFriends & Familyâ pre-opening and introduced us to co-owner Thomas Sanborn, who was the original chef at Stonewood when Dave opened it.
Dave seemed to thrive in his new position at Bella Brava, but in April, he was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease that affects the kidneys. Suddenly, after years as Ginaâs primary caregiver, Dave was receiving dialysis treatments three days a week for several weeks.
In June, Dave decided to work a full shift at Bella Brava, even though Emily â who is a nurse with two degrees â was concerned that her stepdad wasnât fully recovered from his weeks of dialysis treatment. He just loved the work.Â

But, when Dave got home, he told the caregiver that he wasnât feeling well. He went to sleep…and never woke up.
At only age 69, the man who loved his wife for 28 years and had taken care of her for the last 17 years as she struggled with ALS, was gone.
Tiny quickly organized a Celebration of Life in Daveâs honor and memory on July 14 and an estimated crowd of 300-400 people showed up to hear his family and closest friends talk about what a wonderful husband, father, brother, friend and manager of people he was. Here are a few excerpts from the speeches given about Dave that day:

Gina (Emily read a letter from her Mom to her husband Dave): âFrom the moment David came into our lives, he became a second father figure to Emily, loving her as if she were his own. He was endlessly dedicated and loyal not just to me, but to our whole family. He showed his love through his strength and unwavering support by always putting us first. David, you carried your confidence and kindness with you. Wherever you went, your compassion touched countless lives, and your love will always remain alive in the hearts of everyone who had the privilege to know you. But, you left me so fast and unexpectedly. I love you more than you will ever know, and I will miss your radiant smile everyday. Your love is the lasting legacy you left with me and your family. Your kindness was a true gift to everyone who had the chance to know you.â
Emily: âDavid always had a favorite story that he love to share. When I was four years old, I was sitting out in the living room with him watching TV. My mom came over and reminded me that it was time to go to bed. I looked up at her and said, âNo, mommy, I canât go to bed. Iâm watching baseball with my âlittle stepdaddy.â From that day on, thatâs what he was to me… my little step daddy. He instantly became my bonus dad at a very young age and supported me throughout the rest of my life.â

Paul (Daveâs brother): âWhen I was 16 years old, and we lived in Boston. David, John myself and Daveâs friend Tim took us to see the Trammps, a disco band in the seventies, and they were pretty hot at the time. There were a lot of problems with that evening, not the least of which was that four of us were under age. The five of us were invited on stage to sing the finale, âDisco Infernoâ with the group. It was amazing. Okay, it was the seventies. Dave loved his family, He loved the restaurant. He loved the people he worked with. He loved his customers. He just loved people.
âDave loved reading his devotionals. A recent one he shared was, âHeâs Preparing a Place for You.â Jesus promised that heâs preparing a place for us, a place where we will be with him forever. Itâs not the size of the room or how fancy it is. Itâs about being in his presence, where thereâs joy, peace and love that never ends. Dave, you have fought the good fight. You finished the race. You have kept the faith. Well done, my brother.â

John (Daveâs brother): âHe and I talked about the power of positive thinking â in the things you do, the things you say, the things you think â it all determines your destiny and the energy you give off to people. Dave greatly valued his family, connecting with his creator, and mentoring his coworkers. He loved his customers and obviously, his friends, and many of his customers became his friends.
âThe French have a phrase ââJoie de vivre,â which means âthe joy of life.â I think Dave possessed that. He put a lot of effort into his relationships with his coworkers and his customers. and he brought a lot of joy to you guys and, to be honest, you brought a lot of joy to him, too.â

Tim (Daveâs long-time friend): âDave had gone to school for physical education but when he moved here, he was going to nursing school and he was working in an Italian restaurant (Lorenzoâs). And I would come down from Tennessee to visit and you could just tell that he loved it. I soon realized that he all the things that he could do as a P.E. teacher, he could do in the restaurant business.
âHe mentored so many people and was a great coach. He was so inspirational to so many people. Iâll never forget that we were working on a paint crew here in Florida. I was going to school, and Iâm borrowing money to go to school and I didnât know what I wanted to do. And I was really beating myself up and I had one conversation with Dave and he said to me, âTimmy, donât worry about it. Donât put so much pressure on yourself. Youâre smart, youâre a hard worker and people like you. Just focus on doing the best that you can every day and treat people around you the way you want to be treated, and youâll be successful.â

Kelly (another long-time friend): âI worked at the Olive Garden in New Tampa, right across the parking lot from Stonewood. Dave and I had worked together like 30 years before that, and we end up working right next to each other. So, one day I was eating there and Iâm just watching him.
âI knew what he was like, but I never got old to watch him work a dining room. He knows everybody by name. And he knows something about each of them. Itâs not like heâs just out there saying, âHey, howâs your dinner?â And the person I was with was also in the restaurant business. And they said, âOh my God, heâs like the Mayor of Stonewood!â

Tina (Bella Brava GM): We closed the restaurant today so all of our employees could be here to celebrate Dave. He was the definition of hospitality at its best. They called him âDiamond Daveâ for a reason. If he didnât know who you were when you walked in, he would definitely know you by the time you left.â
Please join us for a second Celebration of âDimond Daveâ Rathbunâs life on Monday, July 28, 1 p.m., at Stonewood Grill & Tavern.


